My breastfeeding/pumping journey the 2nd time around was much more successful thanks to my doula, my breastfeeding friends, education courses, and these tools! I am a combo feeder so I pump and supplement. These tools I am sharing have been instrumental with ensuring I feel good and I can continue to pump a healthy supply for my daughter.

1. My breast friend: My doula recommended this pillow because I was complaining about neck and back pain while breastfeeding. Once I started using this pillow I received instant pain relief. I do not nurse much anymore but I still use this pillow when feeding my daughter a bottle https://a.co/d/iDgzhiI
2. Bottle sterilizer: I sterilize my daughter’s bottles and my pump parts daily. I love my Philips AVENT Microwave Steam Sterilizer because it is reusable and easy to use. https://a.co/d/0tI9H3a
3. Milk collection cups: These cups replaced my need for breast pads. I do not care for breast pads because they are not as absorbent as I would like. Also, I think they hold odor. The benefit of using collection cups is I can utilize the milk I collect throughout the day and I smell better. I am not constantly leaking through my bras and shirts with these cups https://a.co/d/8iPqUXV
4. Glass bottles: I prefer glass bottles (though I do have plastic AVENT bottles too) because glass has been known to be a less toxic material and they warm my daughter’s bottles more efficiently https://a.co/d/hXeEr6X
5. Bottle warmer/Food processor: Speaking of warming bottles, this baby food processor doubles as a bottle warmer. My son was formula fed so I never used the bottle warmer when he was an infant. However, my daughter takes 4 breast milk bottles a day so I use the warmer quite often. https://a.co/d/bJ2q4t4
6. Wearable Breast Pump: I absolutely love my Elvie Stride Hands-Free Wearable pump. I can pump on the go or while washing dishes or playing with the kids. I am not limited on where and when I can pump as long as my pump is charged and ready to go! https://a.co/d/5jNXqDW

Preparing for postpartum the first time around was a minefield. I had no idea what to expect nor did I know what was needed for recovery. As I have mentioned in previous post, my son, was a pandemic baby so the information and resources available my first round were limited. The good news about being a second time mom especially so soon after being a first time mom, is that I knew exactly what I needed to make my postpartum recovery more successful. Hopefully, if you are an expecting mother and reading this, this will help you. 

First off, the second time around I hired a doula. I think my experience with a doula deserves its own blog post because it was AMAZING so I will not ramble too much on this post. What I will say is that hiring a doula was worth the expense and thankfully, I was able to secure several doulas for a reasonable cost. My doulas were able to provide guidance, support, and resources that I did not have access to the first time. While I do have a village of supportive family and friends, my doulas were able to fill in the gaps. They provided customizable care when I needed. 

Next, I meal prepped this go around. This was a prudent decision because unlike my first time around, I knew this time I would need to provide for another little human, my firstborn.I cooked easy to make and freeze meals that I knew my son would eat like spaghetti, lasagna, and chili. Also, I picked these types of meals because not only do they freeze well but my doula mentioned warm meals were good for my breastmilk production. In addition to cooking freezable meals, I purchased canned soups, carton soups, frozen dinners from trader joes, and instant oatmeals for quick microwavable meals for us as well. I had enough meals prepped to cover at least 4 weeks of postpartum.

The third thing I took seriously this time around was breastfeeding and pumping eduction. I took 2 courses leading up my delivery of baby #2 because my first time around I had so much misinformation about breastfeeding and it led to a lack of supply. Unlike my first time, I have been producing enough milk to successfully combo feed. With the help of my doula, additional eduction, and the right tools my breastfeeding/pumping journey has been more successful.

Then, similar to baby #1, I started nesting around 32 weeks and thank God for that because baby girl came early. I began sorting through my son’s old clothes and items to see which things I could use for baby girl. I took stock of what I did not have and made it a priority to restock on those items. We needed a lot of bath time goodies

In addition to the above prep, I was sure to have all the right things at home and in the bathroom ready for use to help my body recover from labor and delivery. I put together a postpartum basket that include witch hazel foam and cooling wipes from my Frida mom kit, vaginal pads, medical pads, disposable underwear, Tylenol, and stool softeners. This prevented me from having to make a trip to the store after giving birth like I had to do with my first. Though, I did make a trip to store to pick up some stuff for my baby but this time I used my Target app and did a drive up order vs limping around the store. 

Finally, I squeezed in some much needed self care in the last hour of pregancy. I was extremely stressed my second pregnancy. I was living  with my parent and one of my siblings had moved back home a couple of months before I delivered and we were having a difficult time with the transition. This caused issues with my childcare and made for a very uncomfortable home life, keep in my mind I work from home. So, one day I took a Friday off and got my hair blowout, a pregnancy massage, and pedicure before picking my son up for daycare. Also, throughout my pregnancy this time, I worked out and I even took a serious of pregnancy yoga classes thanks to the help of my friend/sister who offered to watch my son why I took classes. 

All of my prep helped to ensure I was somewhat sane with the transition from a family of 2 to 3. I cannot imagine how chaotic my life would have been if I did not do this prep ahead of my second born’s arrival.  

Let me start by saying I had to throw my own celebrations for welcoming my kids which was a bit unexpected considering I always thought when the time came my mom or a loved one would throw me a shower; it is quite customary. However, that did not happen but still, the show must go on. Once I got passed the initial disappointment, I was determined to be celebrated during this monumental life event and determined to celebrate my son too. As such, I planned and executed my own shower. Then, the following year, I planned and executed my daughter’s sprinkle. Overall both events were nice and a great celebration of life without breaking the bank. Also, I hosted both events following the births of my children so they served as an opportunity for loved ones to meet my little ones for the first time as well. Below are some of the similarities and differences I noticed with planning these 2 events.

Guest list:
My son’s shower was during the winter and a global pandemic which turned out to be an advantage for me financially. Everything had to be done on a smaller scale in terms of party size so I kept the guest list very intimate. The guest list consisted of about 25 of my closest friends and family. Whereas, my daughter was born in 2023, the year the mask mandates were lifted and she was a summer baby. I was able to accommodate a much larger guest list for her event. I invited about 40 people to my daughter’s sprinkle.

Food:
I wanted to offer a hot yet affordable meal during my son’s shower so I had a ‘create your own pasta’ station with salad and breadsticks from one of my favorite Italian food chains. In addition, I had plenty of treats for everyone. I saved money by ordering cupcakes from a local grocery store’s bakery and moving them into individual cupcake boxes. Also, I made the chocolate covered treats which included covered Oreos, rice crispy treats, and pretzels. On the contrary, for my daughter sprinkle, which is a smaller scale version of a shower for baby #2, I did not offer food at all. I hired an ice cream truck to serve ice cream and water ice only.

Invitations and poster:
For both events I used a combination of the free version of Paperless Post to communicate details to my guest and Canva to design customized invitation flyers. My son’s invitation was more playful and airy. Whereas, my daughter’s invitation was a bit more elegant in terms of design. Ironically, my son’s actual shower was more elegant than my daughter’s playful sprinkle. It is fair to say, the invitations were not indicative of the type of events they each had. Also, I created enlarged posters for both events using the printing service at Staples to welcome my guest to the event. I spent more money on my son’s poster because I used a higher quality poster paper. For daughter’s sprinkle, I got smarter and used a lesser quality poster paper but invested in a poster frame for $8 to elevate the look for less money.

Decor:
For my son’s shower, we had a ballon arch, a backdrop, and a table scape for each table. For my daughter’s sprinkle we had a ballon arch and a small but unique set up for her gifts. My daughter’s sprinkle was outdoors so we took advantage of the ground real estate by providing lawn blankets to guest rather than renting tables and chairs so no table scape needed. However, my son’s shower was indoors and though the tables and chairs were provided, I was responsible for elevating the space by decorating the tables with table cloth, dry flower arrangements, and candles. By far, the decor for my son’s event cost me more than my daughter sprinkle which was much more simple.

Venue:
My son’s shower was held at a local historic hotel’s banquet hall. I paid a fee for renting the hall but I did save money by using outside catering and I was lucky to find a venue that allowed that option. My daughter’s sprinkle was on the lawn of a local church and cost me nothing. I did make a voluntary small donation to the church for their generosity.

Favors:
I am a big fan of practical favors that guest can actual use. For my son’s shower I provided themed chapsticks in addition to the treats and cupcakes. For my daughter’s sprinkle I provided themed writing pens.

Games:
For my son’s shower I wanted to play games that were different than the typical baby shower games I have played in the past but still baby/mom centric. I landed on the following games:
◦ The price is right with items I had actually purchased or received for my son using the app menti.com. I asked guest to login to menti using their phones and guess the price of an item listed without going over. Winners of this game won an e.l.f facial mask and face roller.
◦ Left/Right game which was played by sharing my actual birth story and incorporating the words ‘left’ and ‘right’ in the story. My guest were ask to pass around a pencil to their left or right. The last person holding the pencil at the end of my story won the table’s flower arrangement.
◦ A classic game of who knows mom best. I printed small pieces of papers with a series of questions about me. The person who got the most answers correct won an e.l.f facial mask and face roller.

Also, I had an icebreaker using menti which was a baby photo of a celebrity mother (Michelle Obama) and my guest had to guess which celebrity it was with only a few hints.

For my daughter’s sprinkle, I did not have organized games but I did purchase a 4 foot connect four set, a limbo set, twister, double dutch rope, as well as a small slide for guest to enjoy at their own leisure.