30, Single, and Childless, OH MY!

Nickels if I am being honest I never thought in a million years that I would be in my 30’s, single, and childless. Like I imagine many other women, as a little girl I too dreamt of my wedding day and names for my children. 

As I got older, I realized  my hope for marriage and children may not come to fruition. I recall during one of my annual women’s wellness screenings the doctor casually suggested egg freezing. The mere suggestion of fertility treatment is hilarious given the cost. Also, it was a harsh reminder of my age. I went from pregnancy prevention to the family planning talks with my doctor. Welcome to one of the many drastic changes in your 30’s 🙂  

Being in your 30’s, single, and childless does not have to be a plague. I think women should embrace this stage of their lives as there are many perks to this lifestyle. I once read a list of things women should do before getting married. I would like to add my own spin to that list and challenge my 30 plus, childless, and single ladies to do the following:

Nic #1: Enjoy a domestic and international solo trip. As a single and childless woman you do not need to consult a husband or arrange for a sitter to book a flight. The only arranging you have to do is for your plane seat and a hotel room.

Nic #2: Enjoy a girl’s trip. In early 2020 I got to celebrate my BFF’s birthday in Jamaica on a girl’s trip. Though I was the only single and childless person on the trip. It was nice getting out with the girls. 

Nic #3: Purchase your dream car which may not be child safe. It may be a topdown 2 seater! As a single and childless woman you do not have to purchase a car with space for soccer balls and car seats. You can buy the sportiest sports car out there provided you can afford it!

Nic #4: Buy a house, why not? Whatever you own before marriage is yours. Joint assets are nice but do not shy away from accumulating your own wealth while single.

Nic #5: Enjoy the dating experience. This is something I have not done very well but I hear dating can be fun. I think dating is a bit more nuanced with children and a husband. I am guessing you should not date when you are married lol (not unless you are dating your spouse).